Marriage Problems And How To Resolve Them

If someone ever comes to you and says “I’ve never had an argument with my husband” or “we never fight”, they are lying to you! Every marriage has its fair share of issues, whether you want to call them conflicts, confusions or problems. What is more important is to get yourself out of these conflicting areas and ensure that they are kept at the bay. Have a quick look at some of the common problems that plague every marriage on the planet.

1. Dishonesty

If there was one thing that came above anything else while ruining a marriage, this would be it – dishonesty. Many a times, you let out ‘little lies’ and then call them ‘white lies’ for your own convenience. If you are confident of yourself and not faking anything in your marriage, there should be no reason for even the smallest of lies. Talk about things that are not too appropriate to be said directly, but do not lie! Be honest about yourself, your thoughts, ideas, expectations, and your love. Dishonesty may save you from a small argument today, but can come back and haunt you years later. You will break his trust and his heart, if he ever finds out that you have been dishonest. There is nothing more painful than lack of trust in a marriage.

2. Unrealistic expectations

Whenever you find yourself struggling to come in terms with ‘unfair’ situations in your marriage, sit back, take a deep breath and think to yourself, “What do I really expect? Is this what I deserve?” Most women often expect too much, and in some cases, too less. It is very tough to keep a balance between more and less, but a moment of thought can usually help you to come to terms with your expectations. Always remember, you should expect no less or no more than what you deserve.

3. Lack of sexual compatibility

Sexual relations with your partner play a very important role in your marriage. Lack of sex can lead to depression, arguments, loss of excitement and, in worst cases, even infidelity. Find time from your busy routine for each other’s physical needs. Be adventurous, try new things inside the bedroom, and spice things up!

4. Lack of respect

It is very important that you treat your partner with respect. There is no single thing that you can say or do to show respect. It just means backing him up no matter what. It can be something as small as taking his side in an argument on the dinner table with friends, or agreeing with his views while having a challenging conversation with the family. You must expect the same. Loss of respect is a significant blow to the balance of a relationship. Give respect, get respect.

5. Practice what you preach

It’s one thing putting your thoughts, ideas and expectations forward; it’s another thing to step up and practice what you preach. If you have certain demands or expectations from your partner, be ready to put them to practice in your own life. It can be as simple as being aware of your own punctuality levels before asking him to ‘always be on time’. You will gain respect from your partner if you follow what you say.

6. Taking each other for granted

It is one of the easiest traps that many couples fall into. Think of the moment when you were dating your partner and your only dream in life was to marry him and be with him forever. Well, guess what, your dream has come true! Appreciate the fact that what you only dreamt of earlier is what you have now. Think of every moment spent with him as a gift and cherish every romantic look that he gives you. Never take your partner and his love for granted.

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10 Common Mistakes Women Make With Men

As it is said, men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Hence, there’s a strong magnetic attraction between them. But, this attraction, most of the times, does not last long. You may bump into the most prospective guy at a club and exchange your numbers. A few dates later (which you thought were perfect), he dumps you! Wondering why? Well, you must have made one of the mistakes enlisted below. Find out right now.

1. Being too available

Big mistake! It is important to be there for him, however being available all the time is not good. Chances are that he will take you for granted in the long run. You may also come across as a desperate woman trying hard to get him. Men tend to get attracted to women who are a little challenge. Show him that you also have a lot in life besides him.

2. Being impractical

Many women live in a fairyland, where they expect their man to be Prince Charming. No one can be the most perfect man in the world. Everyone has some flaws in them, so you need to accept him along with his shortcomings.

3. Being too honest too soon

Never be too honest very soon. Don’t go about sharing intimate details on the first date itself. You may bug your date. Getting to know each other should be step by step. It takes time. In fact, men tend to find women, who are not very open about themselves, interesting.

4. Being too gullible

Trust is important. However, don’t trust any one blindly in the ‘getting-to-know’ stage. That does not mean you go about showing them that you are suspicious. But, don’t believe every word they say. Men tend to flatter women, to appear charming. They may also put up a false front to appear more appealing. It is necessary to keep your eyes and ears open in order to catch the fake from the real.

5. Being a control freak

Don’t be obsessed with taking charge all the time. Be it planning for a date or making reservations, sometimes it is fine to sit back and let the man do the work. It boosts their ego and makes them feel powerful. But if you go about being a control freak and taking total charge of their lives, it may scare them away. So relax!

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The girl’s guide to getting love

By: Dr. Pam Spurr

Life can be fantastic as a single when you don't want the hassle of a relationship. But for those who long to find love it can feel very lonely out on the dating scene. It seems like you'll never meet Mr Potential let alone Mr Right.

Here are six love lessons to help you to get love into your life: 
Love lesson No 1: Treat every chance encounter as a speed date
Time to develop a 'winner-at-love' mindset and be prepared for the idea that around the next corner is Mr Potential. This means you're ready with a smile plus confident posture radiating positivity that will attract his interest. Treating each encounter like a speed date means you give your best.

Standing hunched over, staring at the floor is a big no-no! But saying something neutral that creates a shared experience is a fab start. For instance, as you both wait for the lift in your office building, smile and say: 'This lift can take forever.' You immediately create that shared experience.

Of course play it safe - don't give your number to any old guy - but be ready at work, at the sandwich shop, or even at the dentist's or GP's to signal you're approachable.

Love lesson No 2: Beware of 'chemical' attraction
Make sure the Intense sexual chemistry you have with a particular man isn't leading you down the garden path. Sexual chemistry is great - and yes, couples need a spark - but some women repeatedly get swept off their feet by charismatic men who only want a fling.

If you're looking for love rather than a bit of fun learn to identify the guys only after one thing from those who can offer you more.

Those who only expect sex - and aren't interested in love - tend to ring at the last minute, flirt like mad and use loads of sexual innuendo when with you. And then you don't hear from them until it suits them. Don't waste your time with them!

Love lesson No 3: Dump your normal 'type'
It's easy to get stuck always dating the same 'type'. You figure you've always liked, e.g., sporty guys, or outgoing guys, so you always go for them. The problem is you miss lots of other good men because they don't look sporty or they aren't the most outgoing in the group.
 

But think about it logically (I know, hard to do when it comes to love!) and you will realise you could be jeopardising your chances of finding love. Because if you haven't found it yet with your supposed 'type' - maybe that type isn't for you.

Be daring, break this relationship bad-habit and go for the opposite type. Try dating that quieter guy or the lanky one who doesn't look sporty. You might find your Mr Right after all.

Love lesson No 4: Widen your circle of opportunity
You're already enhancing your opportunities by treating every chance encounter like a speed date. Now you've got to reconsider your 'circle of opportunity'. Research shows we have a set geographical and emotional 'circle' we operate in - taking the same route to work, going to the same pub after work, always seeing the same friends and doing the same things.

Seeing as your circle of opportunity hasn't brought you the love of your life it needs changing. Start widening it to maximise love-opportunities. Take new routes to work, go to new places, take a selection of evening classes, enlist a friend to try new bars and clubs with you, and check out some of the singles events in your area as well as internet dating.

Love lesson No 5: Make your love-mascot work for you 
Sometimes we need inspiration from outside of ourselves. Taking on board a personal love-mascot - in this case someone who's successful in love - can be super helpful.

Think about someone you admire from your life who has a really good relationship. Or a celebrity who has found true love, e.g. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Turn them into your private love-mascot.

Imagine how she approaches her relationship. Can you visualise her confidently chatting up her Mr Right when they first met? If she can do it, so can you. Think of her attitude, her natural ease around men, etc., and bag some of it for yourself every time you walk out of your front door.

Love lesson No 6: Be aware of that little devil on your shoulder
The final - and maybe most important - Love Lesson is banishing that little devil on your shoulder that talks you down. You know, that negative voice that whines on and on telling you things like you're not attractive enough, you're a failure at love, no one's going to ever want you, etc.

When your internal dialogue - that little devil - consists of all that negativity it's hard to hide it. And whereas confidence is highly attractive, a severe lack of confidence and lots of insecurity that you're not good enough for love is a turnoff.

Challenge that voice whenever it starts. Stop it and start telling yourself that you have loads to offer and that you will find love.