Are you a lover – of people, of nature, and of life? Or are you a fighter? If you are the former, then you are among the lucky few. On the other hand, if you fall in the latter category, we have just the list for you. Read on for tips to move from being a fighter to a lover.
1. Learn to forgive
Be it any aspect of your life, if you hold on to grudges and all those people who have wronged you, then you will never be able to have inner peace. Being a lover requires immense patience and the great quality of being able to forgive easily.
2. Live in the present moment
This is another way of saying that you need to let go. If you keep living in the past, you will either have grudges or regrets. Being full of such negative feelings will never let you be a lover. You must realize that the present moment has immense power and can lead to a wonderful future. If you live your present moment to the fullest, then you will harbor loads of positive feelings and will be able to spread the love.
3. Be responsible for your own happiness
If you keep having high expectations from others, then you are bound to face disappointments in life. It is essential that you realize that you are the only one responsible for your happiness. The moment you stop expecting from others, you will have less arguments and conflicts with them. Find that inner contentment and learn to find joy in life’s simple pleasures
4. Love yourself
If you always keep putting yourself second, then you will eventually feel that you have been unfair to yourself. You cannot give what you don’t have. If you do not love yourself, then you cannot love anyone or anything. The kind of relationship that you have with yourself reflects how you are with the world. Learn to forgive yourself, give your body the attention it needs, and make time to do things that make you genuinely happy.
5. Learn to see the good in all
We all have our flaws and it is often easier to hate someone or fight with someone by pointing out their flaws. But you must realize that you have the choice to see the good in people as well. If at all times, you focus on their good and the goodness around you, then you will be at peace. It will becomes effortless for you to love all that is around you. However, developing this quality can easily take a lifetime and you must remember that there are no shortcuts here.
6. Take responsibility for your actions
If you always keep putting the blame on others every time you fail, then you will forever be full of hatred. To be a lover, you have to know what flaws you have. You must learn to hold your head up and own up to the wrongs that you have done. Not only will this make you humbler, it will also make it impossible for you to judge others based on their flaws.
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